Maybe You're Projecting

Thursday night Robert and I were riding the train home after having drinks with his boss. We were tipsy, laughing and being silly. I had been doing the Gangnam Style dance all night and the song was in my head, so I found myself singing “heyyyy sexy lady!” and shaking my hips while holding onto him for balance on the train.
“They’re probably going to play that song at Geo’s wedding next weekend” Robert said, laughing at me.
“Ohhhh you’re right! You need to learn the dance before then so you can do it with me,” I said tapping his chest with my finger,
“I need to learn it, and you need to get better at it,” he said teasing me.
“Excuse me, I can Gangnam Style with the best of ‘em,” I kept dancing in front of him and before I knew it we were having a pretend-argument about just how well I could do the dance.
“Okay, okay!” I took a deep breath between giggles, “on a scale of one-to-ten, how well can I do the dance?”
“On a scale of one-to-ten?” Robert asked, I nodded. “On a scale of one-to-ten… you’re a nine!” he replied in an over the top sweet voice while he stroked my arm.
I pulled away dramatically, “you’re so ridiculous! If I were a nine you would not be suggesting I rehearse this dance…. never mind the fact that you don’t even know the dance!”
We went round and round like this for a few stops. Laughing and teasing and challenging each other about dancing together. I don’t know when she got on, but suddenly I noticed a (skinny) girl across from us listening to our conversation with a smile on her face. Every time Robert made a silly comment, I’d roll my eyes and catch hers to give her a look like “men, sheesh”.
Out of the blue, she walked over to me, “I’m sorry… I can’t take this anymore,” she said. “You are GORGEOUS! you’re a great dancer and don’t let him tell you differently! Don’t let him make you think you’re not a beautiful, gorgeous girl… he’s just a stupid guy… he doesn’t know anything! You are gorgeous, BELIEVE THAT!” then she squeezed my hand and got off of the train.
I stood there thoroughly confused.
As far as I was concerned, I was having a playful fight with the guy I’m seeing about a dumb dance that we might have to do at his friends wedding. But somehow she thought that I was an insecure girl who was being made to feel bad about herself by a guy.
The longer I date Robert, the more I am coming to terms with what people project onto our relationship when they look at us. Because I am a Plus Size Princess and he’s a normal size, tall, attractive dude I’m constantly navigating through the fact that some people don’t think we “match”, or last month when Robert was buying my drinks all night and sitting right next to me, but a female asked if a girl three feet away from us was his girlfriend (as if I was just an invisible non-factor).
I think the lady on the train gave me that pep talk because she assumed that I didn’t think I was attractive and she assumed that I was desperate to be with Robert, so I was allowing him treat me badly. I can’t help but wonder if she saw Robert having that same playful argument with like… Kelly Rowland or some model, if she’d feel the need to make the same speech.
I’m just fascinated by what people see/project onto PSP’s with attractive boyfriends.
Thoughts??? Do any of you struggle with this?
Written by  CeCe  the big Girl Blogger

How To Choose The Right Foundation For Your Skin Color

A popular saying is 'beauty is merely skin deep'. Nonetheless, your looks are important in determining the way the world interacts with you. Since this is true, it's critical that you do what you are able to in order to enhance your appearance. This article will help with that.

If you have ever been dancing in a club, you know that your skin can get a little shiny. To reduce the shine, use the cheap toilet paper as a blotter. The toilet paper will work great to take oil from your skin. Simply press a piece of this paper firmly onto your oily skin, and you'll have instant gorgeous skin.

Keep your nails looking great by using Vaseline on the cuticles. This keeps your nails moisturized and encourages growth. For the right results, you should do it every week. When you can do it once per week, you can forgo those ill-timed nail dilemmas while your nails grow more quickly as well.

Before you even apply mascara, make sure you have created the right shape for your eyelashes with an eyelash curler. Your curled eyelashes will not only look longer than they are, but the entire area of your eyes can be visually lifted and look brighter. When using an eyelash curler, start at the bottom of the lashes and squeeze for a single second. Repeat this near the lashes ends. This helps make the curling angle more natural instead of abrupt.

You should always wash your skin with a gentle cleanser one or two times every day whatever your skin type is. Always keep in mind that you have to take off all your makeup before starting to clean your skin. If you don't, it can cause acne or clogged pores.

The last thing you want, if you are going to use fake eyelashes, is to find you are allergic to the glue. To test for allergies, dab a wee bit of it on your arm. Cover with a bandage for 24 hours. If after 24 hours you see no rash, you should be fine.

Multiple research projects in the scientific world have found that symmetry is often associated with beauty. If you wish to look your best, symmetry is something to focus on. Keep your make up symmeteical and your facial hair.

Regardless of your opinions on beauty, you will benefit from looking great. Use as many of these tips as you want to help you do that. When you are outwardly attractive you will feel better on the inside.

Financial Wisdom That Can Help Anyone

Even if you're not a materialistic person, good money management is an important life skill. It is very important to find out as much as you can about personal finance in order to improve the quality of your life. This article has several tips to help guide you on your way to creating a better understanding of your money.

A good budget is based on the real numbers. You need to include all sources of income such as your salary, alimony, investment property, or others. Make sure the amount of money going out is never greater than the amount coming in.

Writing down your expenses is the next thing that you need to do. You should account for all of your monthly expenses by keeping a tally of them. The list should have all of your outgoing expenses on it. It is important to be accurate and to record every expense, no matter how small. Remember that eating out should count as an expense on your grocery bill. Document all of your vehicle-related expenses, including insurance, fuel, and regular maintenance. If you have payments that you make quarterly or less frequently, divide them up to reflect a monthly payment. Look for any expense, no matter how small, including storage rentals, babysitter costs and any other small cash outlays. Try to make your list as accurate as you can, so you can get the best information for budgeting.

Organize a budget plan once you know how much money comes in and out of your household. Start by looking over all expenses from your list and eliminate the unnecessary ones. One idea is to make your own coffee, and bring it with you instead of buying one on the way to work. Be ruthless in examining your list and cutting anything you can get by without.

Updating your home in energy-efficient ways can often help to lower your skyrocketing utility expenses. Weatherizing your windows can take a huge bite out of your heating bill, as you don't need to heat and cool your home as much. Also, a new water heater that is energy-efficient should take the place of your old energy-hungry relic in order to reduce your home's power usage. Lower your water bill by fixing leaky pipes and by running the dishwasher only when you have a full load. These changes can cost a lot up front, however, in the end you will save money.

Investing in energy-smart appliances is a great way to save money over the long run. You should also unplug appliances you aren't using, particularly ones where there is an indicator light constantly on. It can be quite shocking how much energy all of the standby lights in your house are using.

Make your home more efficient by having extra insulation added to the attic space and a new roof put on. You will save a great amount of money on your heating and cooling costs by doing this. You may also be able to save on your taxes thanks to local tax incentive programs.

The information you will read can help you decrease your expenditures. When you spend money upgrading home appliances and utilities, it will be quickly reimbursed as you receive lower bills from the utility companies. Doing this gives you control of your finances.

Dear Thick and Single

Here's our latest email about a Big Girl dating story from S.C in Santa Clara.

Hi Thick and Single I wanted to share my story it's probably nothing new but I guess this is a way of not going crazy talking to myself.  I meet a guy on FB, we started in boxing each other probably about 2 weeks ago.  I looked at his page and we got comfortable enough over the 2 weeks to decide to meet at a public place (Starbucks) I bet Starbucks make a lot of money being the quote un quote safe place to meet a stranger LoL.

Anyway we decided to meet on a busy Friday night and of course because this is new, we have not exchanged phone numbers.  As a big girl here's where the anxiety starts, I guess I'm assuming that most Big girls on FB are like me (Head shots only) so you are hoping that don't ask you to describe yourself so they will recognize you. So I quickly say I will be wearing a Blue top and I will have a large red Purse sitting on the table.

When I get to the Starbucks I get me a drink and grab a seat, I'm feeling so paranoid that my date is already there and watching me to decide if he will come over or not. Then it happens he walks through the door wearing the Angels baseball cap and Green shirt he said he would have on. When I saw him, I have too be honest, I immediately felt because he was well built and attractive he wasn't going to find me attractive because of my size.  Our eyes meet and he gives me a smile and heads over to the table.

I know I'm not the only one guilty of this because I'm so certain I'm not going to attract anyone with my figure I over do it on my one good thing the big boobs. He sits down and I can see he's fighting looking dead at the boobs. We have a great conversation a few laughs, but I can feel something is not happening so I get it over with. I excuse myself to go to the bathroom, so he can see the entire package.

When I return to the table, that walk seem so long, as I can see him looking right at me. I sit back down and we wrap up the conversation for the night and then the moment of truth happens. Will he or won't he ask for my number, and a chance to get together again.  Well I would be lying if I don't say I was crushed that he didn't ask for my number, he just said he would talk too me soon and maybe we could get together again.  I have not heard from him on FB since we met, and I can only think it was my body that didn't go over to well.

I'm not going to give up on meeting someone but I would like to know If I'm kidding myself not putting full body shots on my FB page if I'm going to flirt on FB

Cosmetic Surgery And You: Tips And Advice

It is critical you prepare for cosmetic surgery by filling your refrigerator and making meals for yourself to eat when you are in recovery. Also take some time away from the job, and allow yourself to rest. Keep reading for some great tips!

Know your surgeon's medical history and education before having any procedure done. Chances are good that with more experience, a surgeon will have more skills. When your surgeon has performed a number of surgeries, they've also worked with a number of different patients. Moreover, the more patients your surgeon has had, the more likely that there would be lawsuits in the case of malpractice.

Do not be scared to ask the surgeon if there are any deals. Some clinics will be very flexible when it comes to their rates. Some have deals that they run in order to try and attract new business or get repeat customers. So if you do not talk to them about discounts, you may not know that there are affordable procedures available.

Prior to undergoing surgery, you need to have an open discussion with your doctor. No question is to small to be addressed, and you should be persistent to ensure that the answers you get are entirely satisfactory. If you feel everything has been addressed, you will experience less stress before your surgery.

Prior to having surgery, four aspects must be thoroughly researched. Recovery time should be considered and investigated prior to making a decision about cosmetic surgery. After that, you will need to know how much it is going to cost and how they take payments. Post-op inflammation and infection is another thing to learn about. Finally, you should look at the risks associated with your surgery.

Your cosmetic surgery should be followed by plenty of rest as well as relaxation. Plan for adequate time off from your job and minimize stressful physical exertion for several weeks after your procedure. Keep the tips shared in this article in mind to ensure you have the experience you expect.

Dear Thick and Single

Hi thick and single I wrote this email today after reading one of the comments posted on the earlier post Thicker the berry sweeter the juice. It seem to me that the comment intend to judge thick woman and tell us we are not who we think we are.

Well what I want to say is that I have spent all of my life from teen age on as a thick woman. Whether we use the word thick,big boned or any other term, everyone wants to be able to feel good about ourselves.  Do most big woman want to be thinner, probably so, but sometimes it just don't work out that way so we go on with our life.

I guess I write this letter today to say whether that person was being judgmental or not, words can hurt, and make people feel and do things they're not proud of.

So after reading that comment I went and picked up a good looking guy at a bar, a guy who probably don't normally like big girls. But what man can resist big tits, juicy mouth and no commitment. that's right pretty much none. So I whipped it on him real good in the back seat of his car.

Not only did I feel physically better (smile)I felt more attractive afterwards.

So what do you think now Mr Judgmental...some like it Thick

Fashion Tips That Will Help You Look Amazing

These Fashion tips will help every thick woman look amazing

When you dress well, every thick woman feel good all day long. The better you look, the better you will feel. This will translate over into how you carry yourself, and others will view you more positively as a result. Keep reading for some great ideas.

One way to keep your nails moisturized is to keep the rest of your body moisturized by drinking the recommended eight glasses of filtered water a day. If you're not drinking enough water, your fingernails will be dry. This is more prevalent during winter. Use a moisturizer that has shea butter in it on your cuticles and nails every day. You can also use the thick woman's secret shea butter or some other type of hand cream on your hands and place a cotton glove on top while you go to sleep.

Consider subscribing to some type of fashion magazine or newsletter to stay current with the latest trends. In so doing, you are sure to keep up to date on current trends and surprise your friends with your fashion savvy.

If you like to wear your shirts tucked into your pants, you should always wear a belt with this fashion style. You could wear a pair of nifty suspenders in lieu of a belt if you like. Your suspenders or belt should match the shoes you are wearing.

When you look your best, others take notice. It starts when you stand a little straighter while you're looking in the mirror, continues on when you see that passing glance as you're walking down the sidewalk and ultimately leads to your heightened self esteem when your coworkers or friends have positive things to say. To feel your best and make others happy too, dress with a sense of style. Use the tips here to keep you looking your best you go Thick and Single!